Guest Blog: Charlamagne the God & Rape Culture by Kiana Chambers

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A couple weeks ago The Breakfast Club held a discussion on their morning show about rape culture and moral honestly. Charlamagne starts the podcast off by giving himself “donkey of the day” for not realizing the severity and reality of rape culture sooner. He then goes on to rattle off a list of things that we (yes we that includes me, you, ya daddy and ya momma too) ALL grew up on with regards to rape culture.  He rattles off all forms of rape culture from touching a girls butt at Freak-Nik to “running a train” on a girl without her consent. He talks about movies like Revenge of the Nerds and how a lot of rape culture was used to validate a mans “manliness or cool factor”. However, he makes sure to emphasize that no matter how big or small the incident was, it was all WRONG. He says “If we are being personally accountable and morally honest” we will reveal that a lot of men were raised on rape culture.

But what I liked the most about this podcast was that not only does he condemn himself, his friends, and our black brothers for adhering and embracing rape culture but he then turns the conversation to something constructive and asks people to call in with solutions.

The first caller is so oblivious about rape culture, that he calls in to say that he did not grow up “on all of that” but he “grabbed a couple asses or something.” Completely ignoring the fact that this IS in fact a part of rape culture.

I think this podcast was powerful because rape culture is no longer something we have to tip-toe around or whisper about. Unfortunate as it is, it’s a part of all of us, from the men who have carried it out to the women who have allowed it to continue. The sooner we acknowledge it’s existence the sooner we can start to dismantle it and build a better future not only for our women but for our society as a whole.

It’s nice to know that people are finally starting to get it.

It’s all apart of #TheNewParadigm.

Share your own relection on Charlamagne’s powerful message after watching the video below:

Know Yourself, Know Your Limits… a Drake Verse

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As I mentioned in my previous post, I went out with one of my best friends, Jade. As we didn’t actually leave the house until after midnight and everything in Pittsburgh closes, we went somewhere close by to get drunk in our bummy fits. It was the night of Black Friday so there were tons of people out. We left the more…. diverse part of town to go to the hob-knob Shadyside area to a bar called William Penn Tavern.

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I drank two whiskey sours and two shots of, yes you guessed it, Jameson. The whiskey sours were like a double so I guess I drank four.

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The yellow drink was mine. I couldn’t tell you what that blue thing was.

So what did I eat to cover all this liquor? An hour prior to this girls night out, I had 4 good spoonfuls of taco salad about an hour prior. Earlier that day, around maybe 3 pm I ate Uncle Sam’s Sub chicken cheese steak with fries and sweet potato fries. As you can guess, the little I had on my stomach equaled me being tore up. To top it all off, I left the bar at 2 Am to then go eat ramen noodles– nasty, cheap and inedible. I threw it up.

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these are the horrid ramen noodles… never again

And this started my 24-hour bout with throwing up bile.


Here, is the Drake Verse- my sad sad song I sang to anyone who listened. No one cared because I am 21 and should know better…. you would think I would, but nah. So I lay with my head in the toilet deciding that if God let me off the hook, I would give up the drinking craft.

I tell this story so someone else out there looking to have a fun Friday night won’t make the same mistake. Eat quality, wholesome food like bread, steak, green ruffage. Drink water. And never ever eat after a drunken night especially not no cheap noodles.

Also, this is a lesson to know your limits personally as well. Telling people no and doing what’s best for you especially when you know your plate is already full. For example, I knew I had lots of homework and couldn’t afford a hangover, but I let Jade talk me into drinking hahahaha (it’s not Jade fault I just like pickin on her).

I still rep Jamo in a Wine Glass all day… but I may need to take a lil breather from partaking in the Jamo part, just in time for finals season.

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A screenshot before I knew how big of L I would take.

F.R.I.E.N.D.S … How Many of Us Have Em?

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‘Tis the season of giving and letting people know how much you appreciate them. When you are giving out your compliments and little love tokens, be sure not to leave out your friends. They the ones holding you down when your family can’t. They are the ones making sure you are emotionally fed and socially charged.

With all this said, this is also a time of re-evaluation of your friends- weeding out the takers from the givers. As you go into the New Year, you want to cleanse your mind, body and soul from the negativity (however that classifies for you). You want a “fresh slate” as you go into a new year full of new opportunities, great memories, money, love and life.

Love on your friends and say “buh bye okurrrrr” to the ones who are trash. You know who they are…

Dying; least’ I look good On Instagram Pt1

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PSA: This is a very millennial post all hashtags included. However, I’m telling you EVERYONE can relate.

#moodyAF

This playlist inspired me, plain and simple. When I read @alyciabella caption and title of the playlist, I said “wait this is literally my life in a caption”. The vibe of this playlist is very much so a #mood. Although this music is vibey (you’ll know what I mean as you delve into it) it somehow is uplifting and brightening my aura.

Keep listening, and leave your reaction below. 

HOMEcoming SZN !!!

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I don’t think I have mentioned it yet, but I am a senior student at Howard University aka the Mecca aka the HOME of the BEST Homecomings ever seen by this world! This year marks Howard University’s 150th and my last undergraduate homecoming 😦 . But, before we get sad, let’s talk a walk down memory lane (ehem… two weeks ago) and see some of the madness.

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The Tailgate.

HUHC17 Fashion Show

The Fashion Show: LEWK 1.

HUHC17 Yardfest

Yardfest Aftermath.: LEWK 2

Sorry I don’t have premium WordPress so you can’t see my videos or boomerangs … sad day but I am a #brokecollegestudent so we digress.

More pics to come…

Share Homecoming stories in the comments, and then I’ll share mine *wink wink.

Disclaimer: I promise my stories are good. My life has become an adventure.

 

Reminder: Always Be on Top

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“I can’t be in menopause and in coach.”- Samantha in Sex in the City 2

No matter what you are going through, always recall your worth. It is okay to have bad days and to not feel very confident. But honey, you are first class at all times! Never let your current mood dictate your being. You are still YOU no matter what.