Do You Ever Ask Yourself Why Me?

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How long, Lord? Will you forget me forever?
    How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I wrestle with my thoughts
    and day after day have sorrow in my heart?
    How long will my enemy triumph over me?

Look on me and answer, Lord my God.
    Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death,
and my enemy will say, “I have overcome him,”
    and my foes will rejoice when I fall.

But I trust in your unfailing love;
    my heart rejoices in your salvation.
I will sing the Lord’s praise,
    for he has been good to me.

Dear anyone who cares,

I am going to be honest I have had a shitty couple of days- primarily due to people treating me unfairly. As I have been going through the motions I have been reflecting on times when my spirit has been broken down. I will describe a situation below:

Last year during a case interview, my interviewer, after I performed the case took it upon himself to critique pretty much everything about me from the way I sat to my face all the way to my background. I was shocked because before I started the interview he made a comment along the lines of, “I’ve heard good things but we shall see how you do with me”. I guess I should have known then. I literally was holding back tears and fled the interview crying for hours. It was crazy because I ended up getting the offer but I can still remember how horrible this man made me feel. During the internship, I ran into the man who did my interview and said “hi, I’m Catherine. You conducted my case interview at Howard University. I’m happy to say I chose to work here”. He responds by saying, “Oh that’s nice. Good luck. I’m sorry I don’t remember you I interview a lot of people”. Now, I don’t know if he was lying or not, but either way it made me realize something. We cannot internalize the negative things people do or say to us because they could care less. He ruined my day, killed my spirit and made me feel less than meanwhile he went on about his day and his life. This situation happened over a year ago and I still get upset about it while this man doesn’t even know who I am.


For me, I have been feeling very down and out lately. I feel very lost and unmotivated. I am petrified for what is to come next and this is being expressed by my lack of desire to be dedicated to school, work, anything really. I am scared of the future and frustrated with the present all while still fantasizing about my most daring and fulfilling dreams.

I am tired of feeling confined and as if there’s nowhere in this world where I can just be me, unapologetically raw and unfiltered. I am exhausted of having to explain myself and to be put on some unrealistic pedestal while my peers get to walk through life blissfully. It is unfair and I wonder if these people knew how they made me feel if they would just STOP. Literally STOP. Sometimes I wonder if I did something drastic would anyone care or would they still be talking shit… I don’t know and I love God too much to test him but sometimes the darkness that clouds my thoughts takes over me and I don’t know what to do.


I am writing this not as a cry for help but as a way for me to release. I know that I am not the only person who feels this way or gets this way. I truly wish I didn’t get these thoughts, feelings or internalized bullies and negative and mean people but I do. I don’t know how to fix it. If you do please share how you get through these things. Ugh

Why me?

– Sober thoughts

4 thoughts on “Do You Ever Ask Yourself Why Me?

  1. I completely understand you on the lack of motivation and people having an effect on you. This summer I had my first corporate internship and it seemed like I could never do everything right for my manager and allowed her to make me feel stupid or less than, then when I finally finished it and spoke to several people about my experience I realized it was not all on me. A lot of how people treat you comes from their own feelings about themselves and it’s unhealthy to internalize their energy because they have to live with it, not us. Once we realize that it’ll be a lot easier not to take things personally. And when it comes to the next steps after college, remember it’s your life no one else’s so if others choose a specific path and you still wan to explore I think you should do what you feel. My mentor told me recently that you have your whole life to work, take your time.hope this helps.

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    1. Yeah I completely agree especially with “people treat you how they feel about themselves”. It sounds mean, but it makes it easier to deal with the negativity they are dishing out. Thanks for your comment and willingness to share.

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